My boyfriend and I recently broke up. And then got back together. We have been together for 2 years and though our love for each other is strong, we got stuck in a rut. We stopped caring. Stopped trying. And we had a brief, though very painful mini-break up.
While our relationship was sinking further and further into quicksand, it seems that all the people around us were getting married and starting families. I can't open my Facebook these days without seeing someone's wedding announcement or photos of their new baby! There are people getting married that I didn't even know were in a relationship!
Don't get me wrong, I am very happy for my friends and family members who have met "the one". But it seems that if the news isn't marriage, baby, or break up, then no one is interested. When my boyfriend and I broke up we stupidly expressed our feelings via Facebook. My excuse for this is that I felt for that brief moment that I was alone. It was my "cry for help". And it worked! Many people reached out to me expressing their concern. I felt cared for and loved by the FB world.
But when my boyfriend and I decided to try again and revive our love, the response was not as enthusiastic. In fact, it was underwhelming. Did we seem "meant for disaster" more then "meant to be"!? All those times that our friends called us a "perfect" couple, were they just telling us what they thought we wanted to hear? Or was it that the news of our reunion was just not that exciting to them? This keeps me up at night. More so then the laundry list of problems we have in our relationship and the many ways in which to fix them.
And what of our own happy news of marriage, if that is what our future holds? I can see it now! A multitude of FB notifications saying "Yay!! Congrats to you!!" with a very subtle undertone of "I give it 6 months!".
So rather than let these toxic thoughts invade my brain to the point of insanity, I have decided to let them go. Today. Right now. I am sending them out into the universe to dissolve in the promise of tomorrow....or some poetic shit. And I am saying "Kiss off!!!" to all the opinions of our friends and family who think that we should wash our hands of our relationship and part ways. We are not perfect. We have issues, yes. But we also have LOVE! It's that love that has kept us together for these two years and if we want to give it another shot the least you could do is be happy for us!
And now.......my TOP 5 We Broke Up But Got Back Together And No One Cares movies!
1) High Fidelity- Of course it's #1! How could it not be!? They fight. They break up. They sleep with other people. They realize that they are not perfect, but that they are perfect for each other and that's all that matters so f*ck all the rest of it!
2) Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind- If ever there were a more beautifully f*cked up love story to tell us just how unperfect love can be and yet still somehow worth it all!
3) The Last Kiss-This movie is not the greatest. It didn't win any awards (that I know of). If you blinked, then you missed it in the theater. BUT it is a very accurate account of the emotions a couple can feel when their love falls apart. And how love can be rebuilt.
4) Say Anything- John Cusack strikes again! This movie shows us that when the odds are against you, you just have to show those odds who's boss!! Because love CAN work, if you work at it! And romantic shows of emotions and changing "bad habits" can make all the difference.
5) Pretty In Pink- You might be saying "What!? Another 80's chick flick!?" Need I remind you that this is MY list. So get over it! This movie reminds us to forgive, forget, and give love a second chance.
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